One of the things I love the most about being at home in St Albans is seeing family and friends.
Okay, that’s not true. THE thing I love the most about being in St Albans is seeing family and friends.
It makes my heart so happy that I can spend this time with them, without the usual time crunch I am under of having to get to the next person.
Yes, a lot of people have moved away, and I do not to get to see them (if at all) as much as I would like, but it has been so nice to just go visit friends in the evening for an hour or two, or go for a (non-alcoholic!) drink and have a chat.
Very few of my friends at home are runners. They may go on runs from time to time, and other than one of my closest friends Keeley, most of my friends go through ebbs and flows of running.
I love that.
I love that they will ask me about running, ask how training is, how I am feeling about London, ask the right questions based off years of listening to my responses, but then they move on. We are on to the next topic, something non running, which is great.
It can be so easy in a marathon segment, especially as the race closes in, to obsess over running. To spend every minute thinking about it, but that is just not really a life to live. Even the best runners in the world have to have balance. You need something else in your life that makes you who you are, makes you feel that you have something to give other than running.
If any of that sounds familiar to you (and trust me,I often I get to that point), then it is time to look for something else to do as well. You HAVE to make sure your self-worth is not tied to you as a runner.
You have to be X the runner, not the runner named X. This can be applied to any other sport/hobby/passion.
I have talked to many people about this over the years. It may seem trivial that switching those few words around makes a difference, YOU have a lot to offer this world, YOU are a person, not a noun, and it is your personality that is what should be defining you, not what you do to get exercise!
About a week after I got back to the UK, I slipped back into that. Staying in every evening, watching TV with my parents, beginning to obsess about getting enough sleep to recover (and you can guess what happened when I started to do that!!), and just spending waaaayyy too much time letting my life be ruled by running.
So, middle of the week, my mum told me to get out, and go see my friends. Mum to the rescue as always. They always know what is best, and she would rather me leave and go see them (leaving her and my dad at home), than have another evening with them. That is a mother always thinking of what is best for their child, right? 🙂
So I did, and the next three nights (and one lunch break), I saw my very dear friends- just a few of the people who keep me nice and balanced are in the featured image for this post, and it was wonderful.
I also spent some time with my 98 (almost 99) year old
Grandma, Nanny Jolly, just chatting with her, which I cherish. I especially love when she tells me stories about her childhood, just makes you realize how brave our grandparents were!
I slept well each of those three nights, and I felt more content.
That is all it takes sometimes.
Get out of your bubble, go visit a friend, call a friend, or go meet some new people if you need to, just something that is NOT running related. Yes, of course talk about running for a few moments, as that is obviously an important part of your life right now, especially if you are racing soon, but then move on, talk about other things 🙂
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And that my friends, is my wisdom for the day. Should have put this out on Wednesday, BUT I have something exciting I wanted to share with you.
How good are you at keeping balance in your life? What else defines you OTHER than your running/other passion?